Dominance as a service

As I read yet another post about so called "service tops" and how they're not "twue doms," I can't help but cringe. I've been meaning to tackle this topic for a long time, but the thought of enduring the trolls and flames that plague most forums is exhausting. However, this new blog seems like the perfect place to put these thoughts together before taking them to a wider audience.

For the moment, let's take for granted that submission is inherently tied to service. However, I believe that the same can be said of dominance as well. Is it not the responsibility of the dominant to ensure that the submissive's needs are being met? From a logical perspective, I cannot see any submissive being able to entrust their physical and mental well-being to a dominant that they did not believe would provide them with whatever form of dominance they were seeking, as well as the care needed to make sure its done properly. I would hope that any dominant doing anything else than meeting those needs would not have a very long relationship with that submissive, though I am not naive enough to think that is always the case.

Regardless, I'm sure there are also exceptions that prove the rule. My relationship however, is not one of them. As a Daddy Dom, I am absolutely in service to my little one. I have to make sure that she has the structure and discipline needed to succeed in the big bad world. And that often requires me to do things that I'd rather not at that moment. Even though I ostensibly have the power to do whatever it is that I want, I often have to put those wants aside to meet my little one's needs. If I didn't make those choices, or rather, if she couldn't trust me to take care of her above all else, I don't imagine our relationship would continue much longer, at least not in the same reference frame.

So hopefully the next time someone utters the phrase "service top," we can begin to look past the negative implications and realize that all of us dominant types serve our submissives to one degree or another, even if it's not readily visible, and that there is nothing wrong with that.